Rethinking infidelity ... for anyone who has ever loved

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This week on TED.com May 23, 2015

Talk of the week Esther Perel: Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved 21:31 minutes · Filmed Mar 2015 · Posted May 2015 · TED2015 Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But can a relationship recover? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding how we love. Watch now »

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Quote of the Week “ How do we heal from an affair? Betrayal runs deep. But it can be healed. Some affairs are death knells for relationships that were already dying on the vine. But others will jolt us into new possibilities. And even more so for the deceived partner, who will often say, 'You think I didn't want more?' Now that the affair is exposed, they, too, get to claim more. They no longer have to uphold the status quo that may not have been working for them that well, either." Esther Perel Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved

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